Globe Cambridge High School hosted an English debate competition.
Globe Cambridge High School's First English Debating: Secondary Students Falling in Love."
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Mr. Xiong
In a famous movie “Léon: The Professional”, when the hero asked the heroine how she knew she was in love with him, the heroine replied, "in my stomach. It's all warm. I always had a knot there and now... It's gone."
It is true that love bring physical change to human, but in a positive way.
The period of love will increases in the hormone oxytocin, the oxytocin helps cement bonds, raise immune function, the married couples with high hormone oxytocin are tend to live longer, have fewer strokes and heart attacks, be less depressed, and have higher survival rates from major surgery and cancer.
Miss Wang
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As I just mentioned, teenagers are not mature, and do not have a correct concept about love. Whenever they have mood swings, thenTthey cannot control their emotions well,, if they hadare having no way to bear the consequences such as being dumped by the person whoonce lovedving them. ,Inin that case, they may suffer fromhave depression, autotomy, and commitsuicide. WhenAfter adolescentlove fails them,depression is sometimesinmild cases, theand suicide in very serious one could be suicidecases. Even though you willclaim that suicide may be the result of many factors other than love or that those who commit suicide are just a few among millions of teenagers in school, shouldn’t every individual teenager be regarded as the person their parents love the most? Is it not a pity to lose such a young life? So, we can’t make such a mistake at the cost of our own lives.
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Miss.Huang
So, our opinion is falling in love, for the teenagers, are more helpful in general. We are saying that the advantages overweigh the disadvantage for several reasons.
The first one is, since love is understood as a feeling of affection, and affection, partly comes from the attraction of virtues, good deeds, as that’s what get people a positive feeling. The process of falling in love, allows the teenagers to learn the advantages and virtues of who they love. For example, you love someone who are really hardworking, it is more likely that you are more likely to be affected and also tried to be hardworking.
Also when someone’s falling in love, there is a higher possibility that the person would try to behave well and improve oneself in order to attract the person who he or she loves.
The second point is, the process of falling in love, and then having relationship, allows people to learn how to deal with relationships by experiencing. Before having a love relationship, all the relationships for a teenager to have areis, kinship and friendships. For the relationship with parents and relatives, it is more likely the teenagers are there to be cared and loved, and for friendships, it would not be as close asa love relationship, and the key difference is, one is not required be that responsible in friendship comparing to a love relationship, while responsibility is a very important trait for teenagers to learn. Building up a relationship with the one you love, and then try to learn about how to be responsible to others, you will need that responsibility, or at least the ability of being responsible as you grow older.
I know that our opponents might say that we need to consider that it might hurt for teenagers to build relationship as they might break up, and that is what I will cover a little bit in our third point. It is undeniable that there is a risk that a relationship or breaking up would cause harm to the teenagers, but here is the point, avoid falling in love and having relationship is not a solution to protect our teenagers from those damages. Damages comes from the teenagers’ inability of dealing with relationships, that could even be not caused by love, even there is no love, friendship and kinship, and even relationships with teachers could cause harm. What we actually need to do to solve the problem, is teaching children and teenagers how to love and deal with the relationships with others. This has always been what we are lack of, because our teenagers today are not taught enough about love, about relationships, and people are only telling them you cannot have relationship now because you are too young, then when they grow up, as an adult, they are still not fully grown up because deep inside them they still have no idea what is the right way to love others and accept love.
Miss Zheng Yun
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Many people subjectively believe that romantic relationships and studies do not conflict with each other. However, according tofrom the cases studies and interviews, we can find that this is only the subjective wish of the students, but only a fewnot manyof them can achievedo it that way. Wwe only have 24 hours in a day, andwe are taking the time we would have spent onstudying, living, and socializing to fall in love. In the face of the high failure rate of teenager romantic relationships, is it worth it? In general, we should do what is right for ourself at different life stagesus at the right age, and the most important thing right now as a high school student is to study.
Furthermore, we would like to tell everyone “Love is the closest interpersonal relationship. Love is ayour whole personality state facing another personality state. Whether love is successful or not is related to the personality state. Excessive self-centeredness, ignorance of other people’s feelings, strong vanity, and inner insecurity are all healthy personalities. Arch enemy.Only when the personality develops and matures and enters, love will love go smoothly, because mature people understand their feelings as well as the feelings of others, and mature people can confidently hold the ship of love. ” ”So when you go into love, first consider whether you are mature enough, do not bewilder into the love misunderstanding.
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Mr. Hujiarui
Love is also a special way tokind ofstudy. The nature of love is a process of trial and error. In the beginning, some people were in love foronpurposes. they choose to be with someone who fits their vision forofan ideal lifepartner. This is the original intention, but sometimes they will findfound that noteverything is notas expected as natural. Dduring the process of love, they have to face a lot of problems together, they need to make some changes and adjust themselves properly. Hhowever, the most important factor is the toleration and understanding of each other. They can understand each other and improve their emotion by their heart because they appreciate each other. They can find the other’s shining points, good qualities, excellent characteristics and learn with each other. It is the necessary result for them to grow up into an excellent person.
Miss Zheng Yun
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From the perspective of the individual, teenagers are not deeply involved in the world, with shallow experience, lack of life experience, lack of sufficient understanding of society, and their emotions are stronger than their rationality. Therefore, when dealing with interpersonal relationships, they tend to act rashly. After establishing a romantic relationship, they will meet a lot of psychological challenges,changes, development, and maturity, they may have quarrels, negative emotion towards each other, and eventually break up. This situation, which can cause disappointment, depression, and even the formation of psychological disorders in adolescents, thus negatively affects the healthy development of their spiritual life.